Vague generalities about our goals, vision and where we want to be in our lives is not random —but rather a feedback mechanism from the ego to protect us.
“I want to be in service.”
“I want to live on purpose.”
“I want to be passionate about life.”
And while those sound Hallmark-level cute and will make you an Instagram quote star:
They have zero details.
They have zero specifics.
They have zero vividness.
And what I often find —is people will avoid saying what they specifically want because now they’re on the hook:
On the hook to show up.
On the hook to do the work.
On the hook to make progress.
Because let’s be real here:
Avoidance comes in all shapes and sizes —crushing the Kardashians on the couch or consuming feel-good personal growth with zero action.
A few times every month I’ll have a conversation with someone who is “stuck” and not where they want to be —and ask them:
If you had the three best years of your life —where would you be? Paint me a picture of a day in your life and be as specific as you can.
(I’ve done a variation of this at least four-hundred times.)
And most will either minimize what they want —and play it safe —or come back with vague generalizations.
That’s why they’re stuck.
When you have no compass —how the hell do you filter today’s choices and decisions?
Humans are hard-wired to seek out an imagined future based on goals and denying this part of ourselves leads to plummeting fulfillment.
But with no specifics, we wander aimlessly, lose the battle of distraction —or obsess over news media and fantasy sports.
Vague generalities equals aimlessly drifting towards nowhere.
Yeah, no thanks.