The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They traded their calling for the illusion of security.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve sacrificed their dreams for society’s desires.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve been led by an anxious head instead of heart.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve followed the path to “success” to wake up empty.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve forgotten what it means to feel alive every day.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve stopped being curious and “been there, done that.”)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve put off all their heart based ambitions for ‘someday’.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve avoided the inner and emotional work to know who they are.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve stopped getting dirty, roaming free, and leaving the couch.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve avoided deep conversations about life, purpose, masculinity.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve been brainwashed by news media and corporate messaging.)

The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.

(They’ve medicated their angst, drank off their edges and avoided truth.)

Here’s the truth:

It’s normal to wake up and realize you’ve traded the most precious real estate, your time, energy, and attention —for some false illusion:

The illusion of safety.
The illusion of security.
The illusion of stability.

And with this trade has come the ultimate sacrifice:

Your being.
Your passion.
Your wild heart.
Your zest for life.
Your authentic self.
Your masculine core.

As John Eldredge beautifully states:

The masculine heart needs a place where nothing is prefabricated, modular, nonfat, zip lock, franchised, on-line, microwavable.

I work with so many Men in their 40s who are despondent, barely ‘there’ and feeling hollow.

Some of them have Ivy League degrees, others have million dollar businesses —but something is missing:

A sense of rapture, of aliveness, of those experiences that remind them who they are on the deepest level.

So, what’s the fix?

Every day, do one thing that scares you, makes you feel alive, feels risky —and lean the heck in.

Otherwise, you’ll wind up like John from Reddit.

We’ve all felt quiet desperation, the gnawing feeling that we’re doing the wrong things with our lives.

Staying there, however, is a choice.

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