When you’re in the field of play in life and business, doing courageous work, taking relentless action —be careful about the critics who gave up on their dreams in Section 419.
Because in that section, it’s comfortable, there’s a cold beer at every corner —and the nachos are realllllllly damn good.
And the people in this section seem to have all the answers from their climate controlled, 71 degree, plush chair:
“This QB sucks…he should be cut.”
“Catch the damn ball! You loser.”
“The Coach has lost his goddamn mind.”
Or maybe, what they’re saying to you is:
“That doesn’t sound realistic.”
“Going out on your own is crazy.”
“You need to stay where you are and save.”
And one of the great tragedies I see is people who are taking steps towards what they want is being derailed by someone who:
- Doesn’t have the results they want.
- Doesn’t have the life and business they want.
- Doesn’t have the bank account or resources they want.
- Doesn’t have the relationships, connections and aliveness they want.
So, the question is:
Why would you ever listen to someone who is not living the life you want!?
And it sounds obvious on paper —but when you’re growing, you are emotionally vulnerable.
(I say in all of my programs: high growth = high vulnerability.)
Because I’ve seen entire plans, blueprints and goals stopped because of one hater or critic or one passive aggressive comment in passing on social media by a co-worker.
The truth is:
There is a cost to putting yourself out there, and being bold in your pursuit of your vision:
There will be trolls.
There will be critics.
There will be naysayers.
Your ability to handle critics will determine your long-term success.
So how do you ensure you don’t quit and are getting the right feedback?
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- Take the Dr. Brene Brown approach —take a 1×1 inch square and write the people whose opinion matters: less is more.
- Find people who have done what you want to do and are a decade into the game and take advice from them.
- Put yourself in uncomfortable rooms where the conversations are in alignment with where you’re headed.
- Cultivate relationships with people who respect you enough to challenge you and will tell you the truth when you play the small.
As you grow, you’re going to get a lot of people in Sec. 419: they’re the ones with the loudest opinions.
But they also have the biggest beer guts, the lowest bank accounts, and are living with the pain of untapped potential.
Don’t let them stop you, because your dream is bigger than them.
And one day, they’ll be watching you on the field of play too.
How do you handle critics right now?