Let sadness rip you wide open, allow fear to course through your veins —be willing to feel the grips of despair, discouragement and questioning what the hell you’re doing.
(Wait, what!? This doesn’t sound positive, Tommy.)
Here’s the reality —one of the biggest problems in the personal growth and spiritual communities is:
There is an underlying current that you should feel ‘bad’ about feeling ‘bad.’
And it couldn’t be further from the truth.
(We call this, uh, spiritual and personal growth bypassing.)
Because a massive part of growth is:
Emotional flow —the ability to feel every emotion and stay open, willing and curious.
Without guilt or shame.
Without numbing or avoidance.
Without instantly finding the good.
Without feeling like you’re doing it wrong.
Here’s what 95% of ‘coaches’, influencers and live-your-best-life authors won’t tell you:
A high growth lifestyle requires a high degree of emotional flow and vulnerability.
(Meaning —if you want a life that brings you to tears with joy, be ready to feel the opposite too.)
So, how do you deal with your emotions?
1. Allow ‘emotional flow’ —feel them fully.
Otherwise, you are literally bypassing and stopping the flow.
2. Do not judge yourself, rather, be curious.
Emotions are like weather…but recognizing patterns is valuable.
3. Ask yourself —how is this emotion serving?
All emotions, and especially ‘negative’ ones, can serve your highest self.
4. Have an emotional toolkit to face them head on.
Use tools to face, process and leverage emotions for growth.
5. Be willing to sit in the depth of every emotion.
This is what makes you human and makes you fiercely alive.
At the end of the day —emotional flow represents a life well lived:
- It’s being present to see the beauty in your child’s eyes.
- It’s being present to fall to your knees during sunrise.
- It’s being present to connect with who you really are.
People ask me all the time:
“How are you so positive, Tommy?”
They want to hear something about positive affirmations or aligning my chakras towards true North every morning.
It’s because I face —and allow — every emotion head on.
To the degree that you can face off with every emotion available in the human experience is to the degree you can experience the depth of a thriving life.
That is really living, what I call ‘fiercely alive.’
And it is goddamn beautiful.
Do you allow emotional flow?