You were having a productive and purposeful day when all of the sudden you experienced a challenge, emotional trigger —or unexpected adversity out of nowhere.
The random passive aggressive comment, an intense feeling of doubt —your boss not appreciating your work or checking news to start your day.
And now you find yourself scattered, stressed and overwhelmed.
Enter the most important marker of personal growth —your psychological comeback rate.
As it sounds, your comeback rate is:
The speed at which you return to a state of clarity, focus and personal power.
Let’s say you’re working for yourself and you started off your day with a morning ritual, focused work —and tapping into a state of abundance.
But then you receive an invoice for $625 out of nowhere —and then start obsessively checking your bank account.
The abundant state from earlier is now gone, replaced by scarcity, overwhelm and is-this-ever-going-to-work energy.
- For those with a low comeback rate —this circumstance could take them 24 hours to recover.
- For those with a high comeback rate —this circumstance could take them 45 minutes to recover.
Now ask yourself:
How much progress would you make —if it took you only 45 minutes to “come back” instead of 24 hours?
Here’s the reality:
This is by far the most important market of personal growth and a sign of emotional maturity:
More valuable than revenue.
More valuable than clientele.
More valuable than accolades.
Because while the example above is a snapshot of a one day period —your comeback rate compounds over the year.
And the difference over the course of a year is two radically different lives, businesses, and relationships.
So, how do you increase your psychological comeback rate?
Practice emotional resilience.
This is a skill and you will get better with time —practice it daily by observing your internal dialogue and emotional states.
Use “being” practices to re-center.
Have a comeback rate toolkit that takes you out of your head —nature, walking, yoga, meditation, cold therapy, journaling, music, art.
Do the work before you need it.
This is the purpose of morning rituals: to set the tone for the day and build the skills of awareness, patience, emotional agility.
Seek challenges before they arrive.
Test yourself daily —physically, mentally, creatively and you naturally improve your comeback rate by overcoming resistance.
Be willing to face ‘negative’ emotions.
No emotion is inherently negative; it is our response to emotions that is flawed —be willing to feel what you’re feeling instead of avoiding it.
Surround yourself with a tribe.
You can’t do this work alone and your partner is not enough —you need a tribe of people with whom you can express your challenges.
At the end of the day:
Your ability to bring your vision and goals to life is much less about tactics —and much more about comeback rate.
(I call this the 88/12 Rule —88% of results are an emotional game and only 12% are tactics and actions.)
Practice this skill and watch yourself become the person who can handle any adversity or roadblock on their path.
That’s what we’re here for.
What’s your experience with comeback rate?