The transformation you seek is reflected back in the mirror —and starts with the radical honesty of admitting you’re not where you want to be.

When I was most stuck, lost, and not living the life I wanted:

I distracted myself with fantasy football.
I sedated myself with crushing six packs.
I avoided having an honest conversation.

Life was clearly not working —and none of the tips, hacks, or live-your-best life webinars were either.


I was unable, and unwilling to get radically honest with myself:

This is where I am.

(Taking non-judgemental inventory of where I was in my life.)

This is how I feel.

(Ripping myself wide open to the truth of my emotions at the time.)

This is who I am.

(Being blunt about how I was showing up and responsible for it all.)

The reality is:

Tips, tricks, hacks, personal growth and spiritual practices can be another form of distraction. Because they ‘feel’ good —it can seem like one is moving in the right direction:

We’re doing a morning ritual.
We’re aligning all our chakras.
We’re reading about purpose.

But if we don’t get honest about where we are:

No change will last.
No change will endure.
No chance will happen.

So, if you’re out there wondering why things haven’t changed even though you “know” what to do:

The first key you must unlock is a level of radical honesty —that may bring you to your knees:

You realize you’re living a shadow life.
You realize you’re in a career you hate.
You realize you’re not where you desire.

This is the first step to any transformation.

(Unfortunately, most ‘coaches’ want to hype you up on possibility before you know where you are —because let’s face it— realizing you’re playing small doesn’t convert so well.


We can continue to distract, numb and avoid.

And wonder why the tools, morning rituals and aligning chakras aren’t working.

Which will you choose?

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